Sunday, February 23, 2014

Leibster Award!

I was nominated for a Liebster Award by Marsha over at Bespeckled SparrowWhat is the Liebster Award you ask?  Well it is a way for bloggers to get to know each other as well and introduce them to the blogger community by way of an interview of sorts.  You answer questions by the blogger who nominated you and in turn nominate others and ask them your own questions.  Since you can't nominate the person who nominated you it gives you a good excuse (as if you need one!) to go on the prowl for fresh new blogs.

Just make sure you...

- Thank and link back to the blogger that nominated you
- Answer their 11 questions in your post
- Pick 11 bloggers with less than 200 followers on Bloglovin to nominate
- Think of 11 new questions for the bloggers you nominate to answer
- Tag your nominees and comment on one of their posts to let them know!

Now for the questions! 

1. What is one song that can always make your day better no matter what? 
Right now it's probably Drunk in Love by BeyoncĂ©! She is my woman. 

2. If you had to eat one food for the rest of your life, what would it be? 
Chicken, chicken, & more chicken. 
Did I mention I love chicken? 

3. Name one thing that drives you absolutely off the wall. 
Right now I'm in my Junior year of college & what irritates me is when other students constantly argue with the professor or choose to be crazy in class. Grinds my gears. Please, shut ya mouth. 

4. Favorite pass time? 
Eh, that's a toughy. I'm constantly keeping myself busy. So when I do have time to do something I like, I usually take a nap instead. But if I'm not naping, I love to doodle & read blogs and just hang out. Sip some wine. You know. The usual. ;) 

5. What's something that every time you see it, you are taken back to your childhood? 
When I was a little girl, my favorite person was my grandmother. We would constantly be together up until she passed away. I was 7 when she passed. So it was pretty rough. Any time we would hang out we would make a crap ton of cinnamon rolls. & I would eat all but two. One for her & one for my grandpa. So anytime I see a cinnamon roll, I'm taken back. 

6. What movie can you watch over and over again?
I have two. Pitch Perfect & Bridesmaids. 

7. Favorite season and why?
I flip back and forth between summer & fall. We have a lake house, a boat, etc so I love summers at the lake! But at the same time it's soooo hot here in Oklahoma. So I love fall. I love tall boots. Everything about it. 

8. Favorite blog? 
I absolutely love Little Baby Garvin. I have followed along with her blog since before her little Harper was born & now she's pregnant again with another little girl. I love how she shares her creativity and adventures with her little & makes me more excited for my time with my future (nonexistent) littles. 

9. What's the most ridiculous YouTube video you have ever watched? 

10. If you could go back in time & give your younger self advice, what would you say? 
Always always always listen to momma & daddy. Momma always always always knows best. Although I like to argue that with her ;) 

11 - Why did you start blogging and what drives you to create new content?
I actually started blogging back in high school with a couple of friends. I really enjoyed it but I just stopped paying attention to the blogosphere. I honestly didn't even really know how to do anything. The thing that stinks is that I don't have a theme that I go by. I'm not married, don't have a boyfriend, don't have children, so I'm kind of on my own when it comes to coming with ideas. I'd love to lie to you & tell you it's easy to come up with content but I struggle here & there. 


Drum roll please.....
The nominees are... 

Here are your questions:

1. What is your idea of a perfect date?
2. Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
3. What is your absolute favorite dessert?
4. Who are some people you would like to meet someday?
5. What are somethings that make you really happy?
6. Do you like things planned out or are you spontaneous?
7. Who in your life has influenced you the most & why?
8. If you were an animal, what would you be & why?
9. What's something you wish everyone knew about you?
10. If you had to change your first name, what would you change it to?
11. What songs are on your soundtrack to life? 

I can't wait to see everyones responses!! 

xo- Desirae

Monday, February 17, 2014

Valentines Smalentines

I've been trying to figure out what exactly I should blog about the past couple of days..
So I decided that I would like to tell you a few reasons why I've never ever ever in my life have had a good valentines. (I'm not kidding.)

Don't get me wrong, I'm ALL for Valentines & I always went above and beyond with sentimental gifts. I still love the holiday & love to celebrate. My parents always make it special too because they know I haven't had the best experiences.... Let's just say, I've never even been given a box of chocolates. Really.....

Okay so anyways, in 7th grade I had my first boyfriend. We obviously only dated three weeks in the beginning of the school year. So Valentines rolls around. We're still friends, considering we had at least 3 classes together. He had this cute little necklace that he had hid in a Chester Cheeto container. Real heart throb, I tell ya. Well too bad I only got it because the FIRST girl he asked to be his Valentine said no & I was his backup plan......... Let's just say I put the necklace on my dog right before she went outside.. I wasn't thinking & lost the necklace. 

It just went downhill from there. Last year, my ex boyfriend didn't get me anything.. Which was fine, I promise I'm not materialistic. But c'mon, it's Valentines. Even a card would be wonderful. Just a card. I'm that simple. He waited until Valentines Day, February 14th, with me IN THE STORE & bought a card with me in the store.. At the time, I thought it was funny but in all reality Valentines Day is the same exact day every year. There's plenty of time to prepare. Even if it's going to the store the night before. 

Oh well. There's plenty more stories but I thought I would give you the juicy ones. 

This year was a little different. I had a hot date! 
Okay, okay he was a three month old that I was babysitting but I think it counts!! 
I also was a third wheel as I joined in on my friends date.. I was DD so I think it's okay. But we definitely got some weird looks from literally all the couples in the restaurant. 
It's okay though, because I am surrounded by wonderful friends & family. 
I know one day, I will have an incredible Valentines Day & until then, I'll take what I can get! 

Thursday, February 13, 2014

Valentine's Fun!

This semester in school, I'm in a class where I have to go to a school & work under a mentor teacher. See how things go & make sure this is the right field for me! 
So this previous Monday, I went to my assigned school & got put in a KINDERGARTEN classroom! I can't even contain my excitement you guys! Seriously, I love it. My College Professor told us we'd probably only be there thirty minutes or so.. I was there two whole hours! I just loved it so much I didn't want to leave! 
I was very shocked & pleased, these kindergarteners are reading! Not just sight words, they're reading books to the classroom, counting 1-100, counting my 10's, counting by 5's. I was so amazed by how different it was when I was in kindergarten. 

So, today I'm going back to the classroom for my very first Valentine's Day Party not as a student! I decided to do something for the kiddos that wasn't personal with their names or mine (especially since I don't know all their names yet!) 
I found this ADORABLE Minion template off of pinterest that I printed out & spent about 30 minutes cutting out. I bought the twinkies (Which I was shocked were $4/box & each box came with 10....) 
Obviously I don't get out much! haha. 

So if you're running low on ideas, here's the template. 

Monday, January 27, 2014

Never Settle.

As some of you have figured out, about a little over a month ago I became a single lady. It's completely different than anything I've ever been used to considering I had a relationship from 16-now. Dont get me wrong, I was sad. But this past month I've realized & learned so much more about myself than I have the past 3 1/2-4 years. It's incredible how much one can grow in such a short time. 

Anyways with that being said, one of my girlfriends from college sent me this AWESOME (emphasize the awesomeness) little book. It was incredible. & I'd love to share it with you gals. 
This certain book is a total of five pages I believe. It's short & sweet. But its exactly what I needed to hear.

 It's called "My Little Book of Whether or Not He's Worth It" compiled by Brittany Bailey. A guideline as seen by one girl who read "He's Just Not That Into You" by Greg Behrendt & Liz Tuccillo
(For some reason I can't share the book, so I'll just type what they say.. Credits have been issued)

"It's very tempting when you really want to be with someone to settle for much, much less-even a vague, pathetic facsimile of less-than you would have ever imagined. Ladies, please, keep your eye on the prize. Remember always what you set out to get and please don't settle for less. If you can't do it for you, do it for everyone else: [Good-for-nothing] guys are able to exist because there are a lot of women out there who allow them to." -Greg Behrendt, He's Just Not That Into You. Pg. 49


A man who makes me feel so excited, I can't stop myself from wanting more.

A man who doesn't keep me guessing about his feelings and what he wants.

A man who pursues me.

A man who sees me as the bright spot in his day.

A man who means it when he calls me baby.

A man who will forget about all the other things in his life before he forgets about me.

A man who does what he says he's going to do.

A man who doesn't make me feel anxious, uneasy, or worse by being in a relationship with him than I did being alone. 

A man who makes an effort to be a peacemaker and bring harmony to fights & disagreements.

A man who is not afraid of commitment and proud to call me his.

A man who makes being around him feel natural and easy.

A man who doesn't suppress his feelings to look cool or appear uninvolved.

A man who never keeps me in the dark.

A man who never would do anything to compromise the integrity of our relationship, or get anywhere close.

A man who can respectfully discuss issues without manipulation or losing his temper.

A man who is strong and tough, but not a "bad boy".

A man who doesn't make me feel ashamed, needy or "unliberated" for wanting marriage and a family.

A man with whom a relationship would bring me closer to my aspirations for the future.

A man who makes me feel comfortable enough to bring up sensitive topics.

A man who loves me enough to marry me in every time zone if that's what I wanted.

A man who doesn't need forever to realize I'm the best thing that's ever happened to him.

A man who would move mountains to keep me. 

A man who doesn't like to be without me, instead of just not wanting to be alone. 

A man who allows me to love freely, without restrictions.

A man who doesn't have to heal in the relationship, but has already taken care of his past.

A man who makes it clear in his everyday actions that my happiness is important to him.

A man who makes a constant attempt to love the people I hold dear, and especially my family. 

A man who does not engage in any activity to an extent in which I feel uncomfortable. 

A man who understands that there is no reason to yell at anyone ever, unless for safety reasons.

A man who treats me just as perfectly in public and around his friends as he does when we're alone. 

A man who treats me better than I feel I deserve.

A man who never belittles me to feel superior.

A man who goes out of his way to make sure I know my worth is infinite, that I'm smart, valuable, and deserving of everything I've ever wanted.

A man who hungers for information about me and doesn't spend our time solely talking about himself.

A man who has the ability and desire to provide.

A man who doesn't make me feel like eI have to give up anything which I find to be essential for making life enjoyable.

A man who honors the woman I am and have the potential to become. 

A man who will always want to protect me from things that frighten me.

A man who is nice to me all the time and who is clearly a good, kind, loving person.

A man who makes me hope that my sisters and best friends can find someone like him.

A man who believes in love the verb, not the noun. 

I will only date & marry a man who's love is profound, life-changing, healthy, uplifting, joyous, inspiring, and intoxicating, because I deserve a wonderfully fulfilling life. "
Brittany Bailey,

I know, I know. Kind of a longish read. Yes, my hands somewhat hurt from all the typing, but I'll blame it on the ridiculous coldness that's been going on here in Oklahoma. Where the wind comes sweeping down the plains right.....? (Insert sarcasm here..)

When my dear friend, Sarah, sent me this I cried. It wasn't because I was sad or anything to do with sadness. I cried because this little book is 100% right. & because I have friends who love me enough to share these things with me. I have been blessed by the people in my life & I thank God for bringing them to me. This book spoke to me, especially for just recently coming into the single lifestyle. 
Ladies, never settle for anything less than butterflies. 
Know your worth. 
When she shared this with me, I knew that I had made a good decision by becoming single. 
Let me tell you, love is blind. You have no clue what's happening until you're out & are looking back.
Truth be told, Momma's always right.. As much as I hate to admit that! Haha. 

I hope one day, when I have a daughter of my own that she will read & live by this little book. 

With that being said, I hope you all have a great rest of the week & got through Monday with no bumps! 

xo- Desirae

Tuesday, January 14, 2014

What do you know...

Here I am again with a fun & exciting story to share with you guys!
After all the lows that's happened over Christmas Break, I've finally gotten some good ol' much need laughter with my closest girlfriends. I'm so happy & blessed that these gals have stuck by my side through it all. I seriously don't know what I would do without them..

Remember that Tipsy Artist Santa I did with my mom a few weeks ago? This time I tackled it with my girlfriends! & It was through Paint Your Art Out instead of Tipsy Artist. A really good family friend, (also my hairstylist) decided to throw a party at her shop! I called my girlfriends as soon as I found out because I knew they would have a blast. Needless to say, we did.
This one was much more difficult! & I might have had a couple two many glasses of wine.... You be the judge. Never too much wine. 
Anyways, we all got to create our own masterpiece. 

It was so much fun & were ALREADY looking forward to our next class!!

Xo, Desirae 

Thursday, January 9, 2014

When the going gets tough..

This past week has probably been one of the hardest weeks of my life. I'm about to dive in & tell you why.. Just know this will most definitely be a tear jerker... 

Rewind to last Thursday.. 
My sweet, sweet grandparents (Granny & Poppy) were at Braum's for dinner just down the street from their house. Now keep in mind.. they're grandparents. My granny is 69 years old, while my poppy is 81. 
My poppy has had some health problems probably his whole life and with age it just doesn't get better. He has parkinson's disease which causes him to have these sudden jolts of movement. 
As they're leaving Braum's that evening.. poppy was getting in the car.. he had a sudden jolt due to Parkinson's and he fell and broke his femur.
Some of you might ask, "Did he break his femur & then fall? Sometimes that's what happens to older folks." No. He literally fell & his leg went back behind him & broke his femur.
So my poor granny can't help him up obviously so the ambulance is called. 

Friday, they talk to the doctor and he said they HAVE to do surgery to fix this. This is a high risk surgery & the X-rays don't show exactly how bad it is so there is two options of to how this surgery will take place. 
My poppy had his knee replaced about two years ago & he just so happened to break his femur that was connected to his knee replacement. 
Thankfully, Saturday morning he just needed the femur to be placed back into his knee rather than having another knee replacement... Shorter time under anesthetics etc.. 
That is until he never woke up...

My granny never left his side. 
My granny is and always has been a bad ass. She's by far the strongest woman I've ever met. She raised three boys as a single mother & did everything in her right mind to make sure they were taken care of. She settled for a shitty husband and was never truly happy. (Poppy wasn't always her husband.) When her ex husband passed away, granny was single for probably 5 years or so. 
My granny has always known my poppy. He used to own a bar/club in OKC and she was a cocktail waitress for him. He always told her, "I've loved you since the day I met you.." & I have no doubt in my mind that he was right.
You see, my poppy also settled into a marriage. He wasn't REALLY happy. He was content, as was granny. When Poppy's wife died, he had rekindled an old flame with my granny & let me tell you... I've never seen that woman happier in the past 7 years than I have in my entire life. 
(Poppy probably saying "Hey Mama! Give me a squeeze!")

Since my poppy never woke up, we did more tests to see as to if he was in a coma or had a heart attack or a stoke. We just wanted to know what was up. Sunday & Monday they ran all these tests... My poppy was brain dead.... 
Apparently during the surgery, he lost just enough blood to decrease the amount of blood flow to his brain, he also lost oxygen to his brain. Thus resulting in no brain activity.

I have never ever ever seen my granny cry, until this weekend. There is nothing more painful than seeing someone you love so deeply and is such a bad ass cry her eyes out asking everyone if she can go with him to Heaven. Even just describing it doesn't do justice.

This weekend hasn't just brought me closer to family... it's also taught me about love.
Almost everyone I am close to has settled for someone. & I don't want that. I want a love like my Granny & Poppy.
I want to be respected and cherished and I deserve nothing but the best. ( As does everyone )
& I've decided if I have to wait forever to find that... then I'll wait forever.
No more settling.
The love my grandparents had for each other is spectacular & I hope one day I find my own. 

Poppy, I will always be extremely grateful for not only the love you have shown me, but the love you have shown my entire family. We wouldn't be the same without you.
You were our saving grace.
Do me a favor & save me a squeeze for when I see you again.
I love you.

Wednesday, January 1, 2014

2014 || Resolutions

2013 was.... crazy. 
A lot of things happened, good & bad. 

A lot of lessons have been learned & I'm trying to grow from those. :)

2013 went out with a bang, to say the least.
 ( a few selfies to prove I had fun )

Got our party hats & glasses!

(Kylee, Me & Britanie)

We went to Britanie's cousin's house for NYE! All the girls had to wear a black dress. At first, I was bummed.. I'd rather wear black leggings over a black dress. Am I right? 
But I'm happy we did! 

Since we were at her cousin's house... We knew nobody. So hello random guy! 

Half way through the night, we realized we looked like the powerpuff girls... Blossom, Bubbles & Buttercup. The colors of our hats/glasses definitely wasn't planned that way. 

I had fun, to say the least. I'm so happy I branched out of my comfort zone & went kind of out with these girls. It was great having some fun with great friends. 

Now since it's new years.... There has to be resolutions right? I suppose I could come up with a few things ;)

1. Find my true self.. I've got a pretty good grasp on my real self but there's always more room to grow!
2. Stop being worried! My Great Granny Riley always said "I'm not worried, I'm concerned". Since in the Bible it's wrong to worry. :)
3. Along with worrying, I need to stop taking offense. That's also a sin. Taking offense is one of the worst things you could do to yourself. It breaks you down.
4. Be healthier. I've become less confident the past couple of weeks.. Maybe because now I'm single & i've been binge eating... hah! That's changing no doubt. I have got to cut Diet Coke out of my daily habits. Hello fruits & veggies... & water!
5. Be a better friend. I like to think I'm a good friend, but like I said earlier, there's always room to grow!
6. Say yes more! Go out rather than staying home all the time! I work too hard to just sit around & be bored!
7. Go on more trips! I want to see the world. 
8. Experience life! No more wasting days. Life is a precious gift & I'm blessed to wake up every morning!

I hope everyone had a Very Merry Christmas & had a great time bringing in the New Year! 
Cheers to 2014! May this be the best year yet! 

xo- Desirae